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Take the Guess Work out of Finding Men You’re Dating Online By a Woman that Knows the Dating Game!

Most women have been trained to be very modest and when it comes to saying something good about ourselves we feel queasy about blowing our own trumpet.

No body is asking you to do any trumpet blowing but facts have to be stated as facts. If you’re a music lover and have a good voice too, I can’t see why you can’t put it down like that itself.

Why can’t you declare simply without sounding very proud you have good voice? A pointer here is to add something like, “My friends think I sing well.”

There now, you can’t feel too bad about something as simple as that. It is as good as saying “some people think I sing well, but it is for you to decide whether I have a good voice or not.”

Similar statements you can work on and even add are given below:

>> “Lots of people appreciate my cooking.”
>> “I am no Rembrandt, but I enjoy painting.”
>> “I like decorating and many of my friends think my tastes are good too.”

So go ahead, if you really have a talent you might as well as let others know about it, after all a talented person likes to be appreciated by a partner.

While we are talking about modesty, there is one question I want to address right now. It is something all women are familiar with. If you’ve chatted with a stranger with whom you’re trying to build a rapport you must have been confronted with the question before. The question is “what do you look like?’

What sense is this question? The best answers I could come up with are: “I look like a cross between an orangutan and a Tasmanian devil” or “I have my mothers teeth, fathers nose, uncle’s eyes and roommates’ shoes.”

Of course you can give a similar answer which as funny as they might sound,  just might rub the person in the wrong way. What the person actually means is, “are you good looking or not?”

A very tricky question! How can you answer this question with out sounding either super modest or extremely vain?

The answer is not to answer directly. You can say something like:

>> “I am as fresh as peppermint.”
>> “I look like a bunch of fresh lilies.”
>> “I have the appeal of a bowl of fresh fruit.”

If the person still doen’t get the hint, give him a detailed description of ever inch to let him decide for himself .

This is probably the more important part of the story. Each woman has to sit and think about what you like in another man. Having the same interests doesn’t necessarily mean that you can get along with a person…

For example, if you like to talk a lot, it doesn’t mean you could like another person who likes to talk a lot as well. If two people try to keep talking at the same time then obviously, there cannot be any dialogue.

What if you’re the silent reserved type and the other person too is the silent reserved type? Will there be hardly be any dialogue at all?

In other words, are you “compatible.” The interests of partners should complement each other and not clash.

Match Profile Searches

So now you have decided what interests you in a person and your interests and tastes are, try your hand at ”match profile searches”.

The idea is not to advertise yourself as a person who is in search of a life partner. No matter how well you put it, it looses that touch of subtlety once you’re in a singles’ chat room.

So don’t do it that way. Do you remember how we talked about working backwards…well this is how it is done.

Keep reading and I’ll explain how to project yourself best, but for now let us talk about finding Mr. Right or Mr. Wrong. An interesting thing to be noted here is that it is not difficult to fall in love with a person or to make a choice.

The difficult part is to make the right choice and to fall in love with the right person.

Likes Versus Dislikes

The second thing you want to do is chalk out a list of qualities you genuinely dislike in a person. Yes I am not joking! Dislikes are just as important, or even more important than likes.

We all have to make compromises here and there, but if we start away by condoning things which we genuinely dislike so it is going to tell on the relationship at sometime or the other.

Now, allow me to give a word of caution over here. A lot of people make a mistake when they’re courting.

They put up their best behavior which is very good of course, but they try to be very adjusting and accommodating which is NOT very good.

A point that they tend to over look is they’are not going to be going on a camping trip with this person they’re trying to impress; they’re going to be dating…

Possibly even living together for the rest of their lives with this person, so it is best not to be very “oh so very accommodating and adjusting.”

You can afford to stick to things you’re very particular about and if you have any thoughts you’ll be able to mold the person out of his offending habits at a later date, just forget it…

The moment you start trying to mold or cajole the person out of his or her habits, whatever they may be, the word becomes ‘nagging’ and if at all the person does drop the habit, he or she will love you less for it.

Frankly, it really doesn’t work that way. So it’s best to have a clear idea about qualities and habits that you genuinely dislike in a person and steer clear of the ‘lesser mortals’ who have those habits.

Once you have a fairly clear idea about your likes and dislikes you’re in a much better position to make the right choice.

And considering the multitude of people out there, you do not have to worry or be over anxious you just might not find any one at all.

He is out there and if you’re doing what you are doing right, namely barking up the right tree you will succeed.

There are some people who even believe every thing is ordained. It has been written down who should marry who and in the end only what happens will happen.

Well, all I do know is dating helps speed up the process.  Another step you want to do is just let nature take its course. Oh nature has its wonderful ways.

There is a lot of chemistry involved in the selection of partner so maybe the best thing we could do is lend nature a helping hand.

Mr. Right and Mr. Wrong?

What if the person who wants to date you wasn’t really what you had in mind? Well, the choice is yours of course; you can take it or leave it.

There is a point worth considering here. If you can find someone you love that is good, but if you find some one who loves you, isn’t that better?

But I would also like to add a word or two. Suppose someone does come and sweep you off your feet but unfortunately, you’re not in the least interested?

You have every right to turn the proposal down but please do it gracefully.

There is no need to hurt the other person’s ego. This person is obviously a friend of yours, and surely you care deeply for them.

If you know you cannot date, let alone marry this person, a turned-down proposal is a better result.  Just explain your feelings in the gentlest way possible…